It’s more than 24 months of married life, it’s been a great lesson so far, and here are the 15 marriage tips that’s keeping our union strong.
You can’t stop learning in marriage, but if all married people could be kind to share all their experiences, those who are warming up to embark on marital journey would have something to learn.
1) Appreciate your partner
Everyone wants to be appreciated even at work, and in our day to day activities. This is mostly important in marriage.
I always see beautiful smiles each time I appreciate little work by my wife. Her thanks is always filled with joy and incredible appreciation.
The truth is: Women love to be appreciated every time, and Michelle Poll sheds more light on this, “Change your focus to one of learning to appreciate your partner.”
2) Do fun things together
It shouldn’t be work, work and work all the time. Find time to do things you enjoy doing together.
My woman loves singing, and I don’t, but I tried as much as possible to create time to listen and sing with her. Just for fun!
3) Greet your partner with hug
It’s African for a wife to kneel down while greeting her husband, but that’s gradually fading off.
Instead of the cultural greeting, take some time to hug, hug and hug. Hug itself brings husband and wife together emotionally.
4) Greet your partner with a smile
Similar to hug is smile. Never stop smiling. Smile with your spouse. Joy is contagious.
5) Tell her powerful love words
Love messages are mostly common between partners before marriage, in reality it shouldn’t be restricted to that stage of love.
Love words like, “You look beautiful,” “Thanks for being there,” “I wouldn’t have gone this far without you” brings out the best in her.
6) Don’t lose the fine art of dating
John Sovec says it all in a sect of love quotes compiled by yourtango.com, “Setting aside a romantic evening on a regular basis can rekindle the magic of a long-term relationship. It doesn’t have to be fancy, just special time for the two of you to remember how and why you first fell in love.”
7) Learn how to agree to disagree
Two people can’t agree on every issue. You disagree with your sibling, so you’ll have to deal with a lot of issues spending the rest of your life with someone with different family orientation.
“No two people agree on everything, and that’s okay, but it’s important to be okay with each other’s differences,” Dr. Lee Bowers.
8) Touch is important
Look for something to pick in her hair, even when there is noting tp pick. Women like to be treated by a baby, touch, touch and touch does the wonder too, and it’s a way of building emotional intimacy.
9) Build relationship and continue building on it
Marriage is a relationship avenue, talk more, communicate more, and share stories together. These things strengthen relationship.
“When other things become more important, such as careers, children, and personal pursuits, trouble sets in. Make the relationship your top priority. When you do, the marriage flourishes,” Cathy Meyer says.
10) Thoughtful gifts
It’s not about money all the time, it’s not also about just making provision available at home.
Buy gift for your wife. The gift doesn’t need to be $2,000, $5 can do a magic.
11) Don’t argue to win all the time
There is a way you can make her understand your own points in an argument, however don’t be a winner in an argument all the time.
“In order to strengthen your marriage, learn to recognize that most arguments have shared responsibility, that both people have valid points and valid reasons for their feelings,” Kathy Morelli.
12) Give her attention
“Ok,” “is that so”…are some of the phrases to use when you’re listening to your wife. Also, maintain eye contact as you listen.
13) Be polite to your wife
Even though it’s common in Africa to see husbands older than their wives. Because of this some of them (men) treat their wives like their younger sister.
It’s marriage, even though you’re older never treat her like one of your juniors in school.
Respect her, be polite with her. You may adopt a name specially for her.
14) Don’t struggle to completely change her
We all have weaknesses, and marriage is one of the biggest mistakes you can make is trying to change your wife.
When you want to correct her, be polite, do so with love in a such a way that’ll make her appreciate your effort to correct her.
Relationship Coach, Dr. Rick Kirschner, says, “When you try to change your spouse you come across as a nag and wind up sending the message that ‘who you are is not enough.’ Nobody likes getting that message, and it leads to distance and polarization. Let your spouse be who he or she is and focus on changing yourself.”
15) Avoid blame game
Focus more on what there is to appreciate about your wife, then express your specific appreciation to them. “It’s also good to do this for yourself.,” Judith Joyce, Life Coach says.
Remember, you can find love online, the bottom line is keeping in mind some of the these marriage tips that will make your union a huge success.